Unless you're one of those lucky moms who can afford a nanny, bringing the first baby home, especially if you're a working mom, is brutal. You worry about everything from should I breastfeed or give them bottled milk? Do I go get them every time they cry? Do I have to only buy the best baby products? Well here are some tips that may take away some of the angst.
One of the top stressors of new mothers going back to work is about feedings.
"They may be breastfeeding, but there may not be a pumping room at their place of work. And they worry that formula may not be safe for my baby," says clinical social worker Tammy Gold.
Gold is known as "the nanny whisperer," and says while breast milk is best, in times where formula needs to be used, parents can save money using generic brands.
"They think the brand names have better nutritional components and that's not the case. They're exactly the same and they're all FDA approved," she says.
What's most important, is that they all have DHA, a fatty acid found in cold-water fish, like salmon. It's crucial for brain and eye development, and the reason breastfeeding moms should take fish oil.
For sleep patterns, she says babies younger than 4 months, don't have brains that are developed enough to self soothe and need you.
"After around 4 months, trying to put them on some sort of schedule does help things because babies love routines. If they know they get their bath the same time and the lights go out, and they hear the same song, they get into this ritual," explains Gold.
Put them to bed drowsy so they are aware of falling asleep in their cribs. When they wake up crying, you can wait a little bit to soothe them, so they learn to get comfortable alone.
And remember, some crying is just their way of communicating.
"Normal crying is when they need to be fed, when they need to go to bed, when they have a dirty diaper. But if there is abnormal, prolonged crying, there may be something else going on," according to Gold.
She says keep a log of what they eat, and how they sleep around the times of prolonged crying, so you can figure out their triggers.
Read more from Web MD on 25 tips for dealing with the stress of being a new mom.