What to say?Common expressions - "I'm so sorry", "My sympathy to you and your family", "I'm here if you need to talk". What to avoid- "Time heals all wounds", "I know how you feel", "He's better off now"Attending a Funeral or Wake.Arrive 15 minutes early Be conservative with your dress, lower your voice, take your place quickly and quietly. Address the family to offer your condolences Sign the guest book - the family won't remember who was there Leave promptly - don't hold up the processionAfter the Funeral or ceremonyAttend if you are invited to post service gatherings - it's important for the family to feel support Offer help to the family for childcare, food, or travel arrangements if necessary Maintain contact with the family. The bereaved may not feel the energy or desire to "get out there". Continue offering support - even though the physical process is ended, it hasn't ended for the bereaved.